Despite the growing public acceptance of psychological therapy, there are often comments that express, at best, doubts about this method.
I use it myself and recommend it to others and you. If after every comment like "I went to a psychologist once and it didn't help," today I would have a jar full of copper. Many of you will probably write it, and you are probably right because not every psychologist is right for you. You have to make the right decisions in choosing the right one.
I also agree that psychotherapy is not a cure-all for everyone. Still, I would also like to highlight a series of myths and misconceptions about therapy. That may make people doubt its effectiveness and feel that it is not working.
Problems on the side of the therapist
Runaway from the therapist if he:
-Assigns all the blame to you or third parties.
-Does not remember important things that you said in previous meetings.
-Evaluates, judge, criticizes your thoughts and actions, treats you with superiority.
-Sessions are often late or canceled.
-He belittles or even ridicules your troubles. You have the impression that he lacks empathy.
-Suggests you specific solutions, behaviors (e.g. quitting work, divorce, change of residence)
I-Looking for contact with you after hours.
Expecting a quick effect
Therapy takes time. The more complex or old the problem is, the more time it may take to see the results. It is time-consuming to identify the core of a problem that likes to hide under various superficial difficulties. If you expect rapid progress, become impatient that after a few meetings "nothing has moved".You may start to doubt the whole method. However, try to give yourself a chance, or ideally - tell a therapist about these feelings
Lack of honesty
It's a prevalent problem. You come to the therapist, you look him in the eye, and find that you will only talk about small issues. Not about the ones that bother you. Others are ashamed to talk about their most intimate problems. However, the psychotherapy office is the best place for it.
Firstly - psychotherapists are bound by a secret, the same as the secret of confession.
Secondly - a good therapist does not judge and should accept whatever you have to say without embarrassing, judging or criticizing. I emphasize - good because if you encounter something else, change it as soon as possible.
REMEMBER: If you are going to hide something. You will not make any progress in the therapy, and you will not be satisfied with its effect.
Sometimes psychotherapy alone is not enough.
With some problems, such as severe depression, psychotherapy alone turns out to be insufficient. Only combining it with medications or increasing the number of meetings will make a difference. Suppose you are unsure whether your current condition is a matter for the psychotherapist or requires a different action. First, visit a psychiatrist who should guide you on what to do next.
As with a psychotherapist, a psychiatrist must also be useful and assess your problem well. If you look at it from the side, the therapy can look quite absurd:
- Two people sit locked in a room.
- One talks a lot, sometimes cries, the other nods.
- When the hour is up, he scoops up the money for it.
in Conclusion
However, science confirms the effectiveness of many therapies. Research shows that psychotherapy changes the brain activity of patients - to their advantage. Medicine can cure depression, anxiety, addictions, helps you find meaning in life after difficult experiences. Discover your strengths and new, effective ways of dealing with everyday life. You have to give her a chance.